My mom has always envied other's extended families because they seem to have it all. We were never blessed with the perfect family that lives close by, the family that has set dinners every week with 12 people and from the outside seems to have it all. But WE,the 4 of us are the lucky ones, because we actually love each other and don't need to put on the happy front, because we are perfectly content watching a movie in the basement with ice cream on a Saturday night together. It was our small unit in Atlanta- and we are it. But from my point of view, we are perfect. No need to deal with outside drama and honestly (forgive my language), all the bull shit. Smaller groups are easier for everything: friends, teams, and families. Who needs a big extended family anyways?
This is not the point at all, sorry for the rambling. The point is this: for the future, if someone you know, weather it be family or not, is perusing a dream and doing everything they can for their dreams, instead of being jealous and trying to hold them back- BE HAPPY FOR THEM. Do not be upset because you aren't half as happy as they are. Put on a smile, suck it up, and just say, "wow, that is great. I wish you all the luck."
Peace, Love and the unit of 4,
B
Amen!!!!
ReplyDeleteLove ya,
From number 2
same here Brandi...MK and I work together, and the fam of 4 share alot of laughs...always checking in with each other...go follow that dream and keep us posted...
ReplyDeleteSteve S
Take a deep breath Brandi and think positive thoughts.
ReplyDeleteLove ya....
Grandma
Maybe you 4 are the "lucky ones" but what about the rest of your imperfect extended family? Is everyone else really so terrible they deserve to be shut out?
ReplyDeleteNo, the rest of the imperfect extended family does not deserve to be shut out. But its been a standing factor in my life that other than my mom, dad and brother (and cousin who lived in Atlanta for a while),my family were people who lived out of state that we would visit once a year, maybe twice if we were lucky and rarely, very rarely, they would come to visit us, come to a sport game, come to a play, come to a recital. That's what I missed out of in my childhood- other cheerleaders.
ReplyDeleteI love my real family, very very much, it is just a different relationship. One thing that I have learned this past year is to accept things the way they are- accept people the way they are- I cannot change my childhood, but I can change the future.
Thank you Hulkster for the comment and input- it does make me think that I should take my guard down from my extended family, but its also hard to let it completely come down when I have been burned and hurt so many times. That post was almost a year and a half ago- so a lot of things have changed since then :) I have learned some great things from my family this past year- things that I know I want to avoid and dreams that I want to go after because of regrets. I have learned from my family that you only live once, and you cannot take money with you when you die- so might as well live now.